|Looking down in my garage. I have NO idea where that old Army trunk came from! I think it's from World War I|
The water in my garage was up to the top of my thighs, higher than the top of the metal chair that was sitting upright. A refrigerator that was plugged in and working is on it's side, and I've lost some newer tables and nice lawn chairs. (plus lots of other stuff) To top all that off, my car was in the garage and also flooded. It had to be taken to a carpet place where they could get the water out. My car is still at that shop being dried and cleaned out.
|Refrigerator fell on it's side|
|Alot of good that WET VAC did me!|
How I've Been Coping with Trials the Past 3 Years
When we go through trials and negative things that happen in our lives, it's easy to want to give up and say "Why me?" There will always be ups and downs, but knowing that, doesn't always help to ease the stress and mental anguish we go through. If you've gone through similar circumstances that are beyond your control, maybe reading about my experiences can help you in some way. Below is a list of things that have helped me, since my husband left me for another woman, my house has been foreclosed on, I'm being evicted, my little sister is on Hospice, my mom (at age 89 & 1,000 miles away from me) is trying to recover from another major stroke and other sadness and heartache in my life.
1. There is almost ALWAYS someone else who has it harder than me, and are in a worse situation. I need to be thankful for the good and count my many blessings!
2. I need to be thankful for what I DO have. Don't focus on the things I've lost or I DON'T have.
3. When the mental or emotional pain of my situation overwhelms me, and I feel like I can barely even breath, I try to say, "Can I get through the next minute? Can I get through the next hour? Can I get through the next day?" If I focus on my circumstances and heartache, I fall apart and all I see is doom! So don't focus on anything you can't do ANYTHING about. Just do what you know you CAN do! We all have to have our little pity parties from time to time, but once we get over that, it's energizing to know there are some things we do have control over. Once I get started on the things I CAN do something about, I feel like I'm moving forward, instead of backwards. So take my advice and "Take ONE day at a time!" Try not to worry. As Abraham Lincoln's mother said, "Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but doesn't get you anywhere." SO true!
4. Thinking about the bad circumstances or negative things that have happened to you, can eat you up just like a cancer. Don't make yourself sicker than you already are. Stress will make you sick and will also make you feel and look older.
5. If I focus on myself, then I get really down, but if I start focusing on other people and how I can reach out to others who need help, it always makes me feel good and makes me forget about my problems. We will always have problems, but it's the WAY we look at them that makes a difference. Are we going to let our problems defeat us, or are we going to defeat them head on? I have a friend (going through a similar situation) and she said, " I decided I can go through this complaining the whole way, or I can go through it, with a different attitude, and enjoy life! I think that's pure wisdom.
6. Above all, my relationship with God is what makes me have hope in everything. If I didn't have Him to turn to, I'd have nothing. In the worst situation of my life, He has given me joy, strength, hope and peace! It's a "peace that passes ALL understanding." I really know what that means now. I've lived it, and nobody can take that away from me. I'm not saying it's fun, but I'm saying you will always have Him to depend on and provide for you. Trying to do right and not retaliate helps my heart to heal. May God bless you too.